A month in a half has passed and I have not written on my blog...I like to be inspired that is why I named it "The Inspirational Corner". There is inspirational behind my pen when I write because I have a habit to write from my soul! ~Stylicia
I am a movie lover and some movies leave a print on my mind and heart. I just finished watching "My Week With Marilyn" based on a true story by Colin Clark describing his magical week with Marilyn Monroe. It left a provoking thought in my head, fame can sometimes kill the most beautiful women. Marilyn Monroe had a persona that she developed in the public eye and she had to live up to her brand she created. However, people had no idea of the real person she was beyond the sex symbol image. I believe many women create a persona in the public eye but that is not who they really are on the inside.Whitney Houston was another iconic woman who people saw as a musical princess but they did not know who Whitney was behind her brand image. Whitney Houston and Marilyn Monroe both had a tragic end to their life. However, these two beautiful women were constantly everything to everyone else but no one was there to save them from their demise. As women we are built to wear many hats but sometimes we forget the woman on the inside need personal care. If we do not get that personal care then we start to develop an unhealthy relationship with our self. Marilyn and Whitney both needed to be rescued from their demanding life, feeling unpretty,incompetent, insecure and feeling like their talent was not enough. These beautiful women were icons who made a great impression on women in their lifespan. It is sad to have all the money in the world but not feel love from within. It is important as a woman we find time to retreat away from the pressures of life when we feel like we are losing who we are on the inside. Some of us are dying on the inside but smiling on the outside because we just want to be rescued. I still ponder what would of happen if Whitney Houston, Marilyn Monroe and Amy Winehouse would have been rescued from their misery. Ladies, misery loves company but it is your duty to connect back with the light.There comes a time where you have to find time to separate your roles from being a mother, wife, friend, mentor, nurturer and career woman to connect with who you are, connecting with your God given persona. I have many names but sometimes I just have a desire just to be Stylicia, the fun, crazy, edgy, goofy and unadulterated person I was created to be. However, the biggest lesson I have learned from Marilyn Monroe and Whitney Houston is no matter how many demands, titles and roles I have to play in life the most important role is being good to myself. I have to learn to be my own best friend!
Ladies take to time to retreat away, to regroup and be you, be true to the woman that needs nurturing on the inside!
Six months ago, Neena still work at our office. For some people, may be she’s not important, but for me she’s humble, mature and nice woman. She’s 25 years old, and married on 23 years old. No one realized how much the job important for her exactly. She’s workaholic, but sometimes, in big company people can’t appreciate others. They can judge anyone with silly reason, such as “just don’t like her” or “she’s just the cleaning service officer” or “she’s nothing, I don’t even know she were exist”. They had something else to do, but complaining other’s responsibility is one of their favorite thing to do.
Diana is one of the senior in office. She’s temperamental girl, sensitive and known as the selfish one. Sometimes people know her as mature person, but when she gets angry, she’ll be the one who burn a house. One thing I regret is when we put her anger to Neena. There was nothing wrong with Neena, she did her job very well. But Diana gone mad when saw her sit relax for a while or talk to the employee. It was her right, wasn’t it?? Who said the cleaning service didn’t allowed to sit down or communicated with others? Who said it was Diana’s job to intervened others? Does she had authorization? Hell, NO!!
One day, Neena was sick. She can’t go to work as well. She got ill for about three days. Diana was feel disturbed with Neena absence and said to the boss that Neena is lied and didn’t admit the regulation, said that Neena is only pretend about her health condition.
Diana’s persuasion was so succeed. Neena was drop out of the office. I’m the first person who feel hurt for her. Nobody knows how weight of her burdened. Now she was jobless. Her husband was unemployed too and also temperamental. Her parent was divorced since her father marrying other woman. Her husband always told her that she comes from misbehave family and her father is kind of prostitute man. Before she retired, the situation of her family was already broken, but after retired everything getting worse and worst. Her life become much more worse because there was no salary for her daily life. Her husband was really stupid man, he only blame Neena every day. He had no shame, he never realize that feed family should be his responsibility.
Four month after retired from job, Neena getting more frustrated, frustrated with her husband, family and give up of searching new job. Actually she had working once again after retired from our company, but her family problem made her hard to concentrate to her job and feel so desperate. Her salary was very low, but her unemployed husband didn’t understand and just give her additional pressure. She can’t stand anymore. She plan to divorce from her husband and run out of town to leave her problem and feel new atmosphere. She hope it can change situation.
“Divorce never been good choice, God even hate it. But for this I support you, Neena, you’re still so young, you didn’t even have any kids. You had many chance and opportunity. You had dream, You deserve for someone better. Follow your heart and decide by yourself, I’m behind you”, I said to her. She cried. She ask me what was she ever did until her life becomes so miserable. I said to her that she must be strong, she can pass this and everything will be fine. She wish to leave the town but I advice her to stay since I know exactly she was not ready yet for an experience in other place. She’s very innocent woman.
Every time I remember her, I remember Diana. May be she never know what happen with Neena after retired and definitely I can’t blame her for what happen with Neena now, but I can’t deny, Diana’s behavior gave impact for Neena’s life. At least Neena will be stronger than she were now if she’s still on our office, at least I’m still on her side anytime she needs shoulder to cry on. Now I’m getting hard to contact her, she sold her cell phone to pay her loan. She also have to feed her family since her father leave them.
I’m sad, but I won’t blame anyone for her situation. I don’t want to be another version of Diana. This gave me some education about how to threat other. Sometimes our behavior gave impact for another’s life. I know this just simple, but you never know how much this hurt anyone.
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